Learn to be careful with your words
We now live in a world where people will say things to us, and though they sometimes have good intentions behind these words, it doesn’t always come across as so. Let me explain: Let’s say someone walks up to you and says, “you look tired, are you okay?” clearly, the person who said it feels concerned about your well-being, but in reality, it sounds like they are trying to say you look terrible.
When people tell you things like this, it feels like a slap in the face. Nobody wants to be told that they look dead. So, why do we make these comments even though they come with a bold tone and a negative undertone?
Lashing out and saying things in anger, name-calling, demeaning…these things leave scars in the heart of the recipients. In addition, words with a negative connotation sometimes create wounds that are slower to heal. That is why it is very important to watch what we say to people as these words can’t go back when spoken.
We all are guilty of doing this, and sometimes, we must learn to refrain from doing this. We all need positivity in our lives, especially since we live in such a toxic world. Here are some things we need to stop saying.
- “why are you going to the gym? You’re so skinny.
Don’t say thins! Don’t! Just because someone is skinny doesn’t mean they are healthy, same as being fat isn’t healthy. But people don’t work out to only lose weight. Some people work out to become healthy and to strengthen their muscles.
- “You don’t need to be on a diet.”
You aren’t their doctor. So, why would you say that to someone? Don’t tell me what I should do. Most people don’t like to be told what to do. And if you don’t know the story behind someone’s action, the best you can do is to keep mute or at least learn more about the backstory before you judge. At the end of it all, people need words of encouragement and nothing else.
- “Other people have it worse than you.”
Words like this hurt a lot. It stings to hear someone say this to you. Why would you compare someone else’s problems with another person to validate them? You wouldn’t hit a home run with this one. People need words of encouragement, but you have to be careful how you say it. These are some of the things we need to stop saying to people. Words can never be forgotten. Nothing causes more hurt and regret than saying something hurtful to someone. If you can’t be the reason behind someone’s smile, don’t be the reason for their tears. At the end of it all, you will never regret being kind to others. And if you’re the type that takes joy in demeaning others with your words, you should look within because that’s where your problem lies. Our words can either make people or break others – you decide.
