Learn how to be kind
If you have to choose between Being kind and Being Right, choose to be kind, and you will always be Right.
If things resort to choosing between being kind and being right, choose to be kind, and you’ll always be correct. The greatest virtue on earth is kindness. Even though it is impossible to love everyone, you still have to be kind to everyone. So if an opportunity to help someone comes up, take it – we all need it.
Are you the type who wants to be right most of the time? Or all of the time? Do you also like to have the last word?
Life becomes diverse when we have lots of choices to make. There will be times that you need to consider between doing what you think is right and what is indeed correct. For example, a friend mistreats you many times. You can stop being friends with them, which is, of course, an excellent choice to make. Or you can forgive them and give them a chance to right their wrongs, which is kindness – you get it right? This doesn’t in any way make you a fool.
You’re conscious that someone’s doing something that violates your principle or the general rule; you communicate your feeling with them and report this wrongdoing. Of course, that is not the wrong thing to do. But, if you find the reason to be sympathetic towards them in case of need, or a reason to let them admit their flaws, that’s kindness.
Four more things that are important than being right
- Detachment
It’s possible to be quite passionate about what we’re expressing without being fully attached to how it’s perceived. When we get so attached to what we’re saying and to the need always to be right about it, we’ll end up forcing ideas on others. Detachment gives us the freedom to smoothly communicate our thoughts and beliefs without the need to be seen as “right.” When you absorb this mentality, who’s right or wrong becomes irrelevant.
- Openness
We can’t always agree with each other. That doesn’t mean everyone who disagrees with us is wrong. Or that we’re always right. There’s so much to learn from the ideas and opinions of others when we stay open to listening more. This is how dialogues move forward with ease and connections deepen. Our openness encourages openness.
- Forgiveness
Even though the need to be right enters all spheres of our lives, it is damaging during conflicts with those we love. When we believe we’ve been offended/wronged, we often want to prove to the one who’s hurt us just how wrong they are. We hope to return the “favor.” Instead, the focus should be on forgiveness. It is crucial to share your feelings and express how you feel, though not without a commitment to forgiving the action and the person – it doesn’t matter how wrong we believe them to be right decreases, thus opening the door for a healthier connection.
