Husband wonders if he’s making a mistake by listening to his mother’s advise about his breastfeeding wife
Today, we’re excited to share a wonderful tale about in-laws. This one is genuinely wholesome, and the mother-in-law is doing her best to support her son’s wife — it just brings joy and gladness to our hearts.
Specific_Paint8017, a Redditor and spouse, shared his experience on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) about how his mother tried to help his wife with her nursing troubles. He expressed himself as follows:
“My wife recently gave birth. She’s been trying to breastfeed (our baby doesn’t like formula and can’t latch on to the silicon nipple properly), but she’s having trouble due to a lack of milk.”
“My mother, who was a midwife, said it was due to stress, and that my wife was too stressed to produce enough breastmilk.” Stress has an effect on milk flow, according to both the doctor and the lactation consultant. Despite the fact that my wife is on maternity leave for six months, her workplace has been pinging us.”
“To help with the baby, my mother moved in with us.” My wife’s family is too far away to be much more than a source of moral support. She’s been feeding my wife (milk-producing foods), forcing her to rest, and making sure she gets enough sleep.”
“My mother suggested that my wife lie in a quiet, gloomy room while I or my mother rubbed her feet, shoulders, or stroked her hair (all of these things soothe my wife) and simply relax her. This has shown to be the most effective. The key is to begin the process before the infant becomes hungry.”
“My wife has an incredibly irritating childhood friend, Becky. Becky is the worst type of soul sucking person. She makes a sh*tty problem and runs to my wife to fix it. My wife is reluctant to stand up to Becky because Becky was the only girl who didn’t make fun of her in their childhood. That’s because she treats my wife like her personal servant.”
“On Sunday, Becky came over because the man she was hooking up dumped her and plus she spent all her money on booze and weed and couldn’t afford rent for the month which she was already late on. She expected me to call my wife down so that she could fix her problems. I said no and told her to leave, because my wife was breastfeeding. She insisted and tried to sneak past me and enter our house. I told her that my wife was breastfeeding and that she could not be disturbed, as per my mom’s suggestions. I told her that she would stress out my wife with her problems and if she wanted to come in she couldn’t talk about them at all”
“She called me controlling and a momma’s boy and friends of my wife later texted me calling me an asshole. My wife says she doesn’t care that I told her to leave but said I could be gentler about her problems.”
Redditors expected another post from a mother-in-law trying to be unpleasant, but they were pleasantly surprised and applauded this husband’s actions. NTA stands for “Not the A**hole” in this context. Here are a few of the most interesting comments:
Slow-Bumblebee-8609 said:
“NTA. I thought this was going to go towards you trying to control your wife, as so many posts on AITA go. I’m so glad that isn’t the case.”
“It doesn’t seem like your mother is there lording over the house and forcing your wife to do X, but that she is a professional giving good advice and ideas, that both you and your wife chose to follow them and they seem to be helping.”
“Your wife has enough worries and stress right now to be bothered by some self centered user. If she’s okay with what you did, who cares what Becky thinks?”
PrudenceLeFeve wrote:
“I mean, NTA, obviously.”
“And also, do you think your mom would like to adopt me? She’s sounds great lol”
“NTA. You just sound like a good partner looking out for your wife and baby. Maybe you could have gone easier—idk. That Becky woman sounded pretty pushy”
“NTA. We all know what kind of friend Becky is. She’s there to use your wife financially and emotionally. This is a trying time for any new mother and parent. I definitely think your wife needs to really sit down with you and have a conversation about this so-called friend. She’s not actually there for your wife. Of course, your wife’s health comes first. It might not be best to have a difficult conversation right away, but it seems like you and your wife will need to discuss. Becky. I really do think your mom in this case is not overstepping, unlike so many other moms on this site and subreddit. I think she actually has some good advice. You’re doing right by your wife and that’s what’s important.”
Awkward_Joke_5748, said Becky was the source of the problem:
“NTA Becky is a horrible friend who is a energy sucker. Toxic friends like her should just stay away, also baby may sense she is a bad person and cry when she is around him. Good for your wide not giving up on bf. I had three kids and my oldest I hurt to bad and quit.”
Malibu921 wrote:
“NTA.”
“You are protecting your wife, and if she agreed, then that’s all that matters. The other friends only got Becky’s story and I’m sure she made herself out to be a victim.”
At the time of writing, this post had over 1.1k comments, which you can read on Reddit here.
