Tips for Being More Social on Your Own Terms
You’ll keep meeting the same people in different bodies until you learn the lesson.
More often than not, we forget that learning is a process – a lifelong process at that. And as soon as you come to this world, you begin to learn how to fulfill your basic needs. Then as you grow old, you make attachments and learn to associate emotions with people.
But one crucial part of our learning process as humans is making mistakes. After failing, we realize how to rise, pick up the pieces, build your life, and keep moving. We encounter trouble, our optimism drops, and hope before bowing to circumstances.
But simply to these situations is not the solution. And instead, we are meant to grow to learn what made us fall – what went wrong and becoming wiser. So, if you give in to unnecessary situations and don’t pay attention to the lesson it’s trying to teach you, you’ll, unfortunately, be trapped in a pestering loop.
The lure social acceptance
As humans, we are social creatures. This means, naturally, we are built to seek social approval from other humans like ourselves. And sometimes, we tend to go overboard to get this approval without knowing the degree of discomfort we put them through. Finally, if we’ve received the validation we crave, the pressure then doubles, especially as we struggle to maintain the position in the hierarchy.
At this point, we tend to forget the reason for our existence – the truth that lies behind why we exist as humans. We’d be nothing without the people around us – the people who, thanks to them, we can climb the ladder of life. Unfortunately, hurting these people that made you grow in life can become a habit, with a toxic mix of entitlement and remorseless.
Learning from your failure
Just as the title implies, you’ll keep meeting the same people in different bodies until you learn the lesson. But there’s always a second chance to right our wrongs. We’ve once gone through that carefree phase. First, some of us were pampered by our parents. Then, as we grew, we believed the world revolved around us – you and I know how that ended.
To grow and learn, you need to discover the root cause of the problem and break the chain. We tend to overlook the subtle signs thrown at us by mother nature. Life gives us these lessons as subtle signs to help us grow. We then attribute our flaws to bad luck and misfortune. We also fail to recognize our faults in all of it – so much that we continue to make the same mistakes without holding ourselves accountable for our actions. You can’t learn if you don’t take accountability for your actions.
So, are you ready to learn? To prevent the “loop” (by loop, I mean, meeting the wrong people all the time), you must face the consequences and trust the process. After all, making a mistake is not the end of the world.
