This lady has a happy life – A husband, fiancé, and two boyfriends
This is Mary Crumpton’s story.
She’s a woman who started exploring her sexuality when she was 29 years old. She eventually learned that she was mostly drawn to the idea of polyamorous relationships, or having multiple partners in a relationship.
Polygamy is a practice that has existed since the dawn of civilisation. Polygamy is certainly something that a lot of people are familiar with at this point. Polyamory, on the other hand, is less well-known. In fact, until the 1990s, it didn’t really exhibit any indications of life in pop culture.
Polyamory is described as the desire to have multiple personal relationships with different people. It is not, however, the same as betraying your lover. People in polyamorous relationships will always be honest about who they are, what they like, and how they want their relationships to go. They never mask their motives, and they are always forthright about their preferences.
If you’re still not sure that this type of relationship arrangement can exist in today’s culture, keep reading. The story of Mary Crumpton will make you eat your words.
Mary is an ordinary woman who is married to only one man. However, she is also engaged to another man. In addition, she has two additional boyfriends. She claims that she didn’t begin exploring her sexuality until she was 29 years old, and that her maturity allowed her to have a more open mind about what partnerships should be like.
“I was raised in a very traditional home,” she explained. “I was monogamous and had boyfriends. It never occurred to me to have more than one partner. I married in my twenties and settled down in Chorlton, fully planning to spend the rest of my life with my husband.”
This is common among people who are forbidden from breaking the boundaries imposed by monogamous institutions at a young age. “At the time, I didn’t really question having just one partner,” Mary says of her circumstances. “It was as usual.”
Society has a habit of imposing “norms” in a hostile and ostracizing manner on people who do not share the same philosophical beliefs. Anyone who deviates from customary norms runs the risk of being mocked and shunned.
“I did sometimes have feelings for other people,” Crumpton admits, “but I felt bad about it and basically saw it as an indication that I didn’t love my husband enough.” When my first marriage failed, I found someone new and began a monogamous relationship with him.”
So, how did she go from that arrangement to polyamory?
When you find yourself taking an unorthodox approach to something as significant as love and relationships, it may be a very lonely and tough situation to be in. Mary, on the other hand, did not allow this deter her from confronting her own feelings. “It only dawned on me that loving more than one person might not make me a bad human being when I ran into someone who had more than one lover at a pub,” Crumpton said.
“I’d never heard of it before, nor had I heard of the term ‘polyamory,’ which means’more than one love.’ I was taken aback and intrigued by how it all worked out for them.”
She was already with her partner at the time she met this new person. And, much to her relief, he was equally intrigued by the concept of polyamory. Crumpton and her boyfriend, on the other hand, have opted to stay inside the confines of their monogamous relationship for the time being. Crumpton didn’t bring up the notion with her partners until a few years later.
She expressed her desire to try out being in an open relationship with him. He agreed with it as well, and the two of them went on to find new companions for themselves. Crumpton’s eyes were finally freed at that point. She was in a new and interesting role and couldn’t seem to get enough of it.
“I jumped right into it,” she added. I had an existing friendship with someone with whom I was already close, and that friendship organically evolved into something more. My partner had a similar encounter with a mutual friend. For me, it was a revelation. I immediately discovered that I’d been ‘wired’ this way for most of my life — loving multiple people now seems like the most natural thing in the world to me, and I can’t image being any other way.”
She is no longer with the person with whom she first experimented with polyamory. She is currently married to Tim, and she also has a fiancé. Aside from that, she’s in a relationship with two other men.
