How to fulfill your life no matter what?
“I no longer force things. What flows, flows. What crashes, crashes. I only have space and energy for things that are meant for me.”
Don’t try to force things. You can’t move attention, consistency, patience, honesty, understanding, effort, or connection. The love that once existed – the same passion that once felt great is no longer there. The truth is, you can’t force things. Getting things to happen with force is not ideal. Doing so will only make things worse. You are only driving that thing or person away from you.
How many times in our lives do we seek to resolve a conflict, change our circumstances by forcing things? How many times have we all applied forces on items, and the outcome was the opposite result of what we expected?
You are only causing more distance between yourself and that person or object. You are creating more friction between you two. You are only displaying how controlling you are. You’re simply implying how desperate you are. Don’t do that to the person you love; more crucially, don’t do that to yourself. You’re fighting to make things worse.
The first thought that comes to your mind when we try to solve an issue that has once resisted our previous attempts to fix it is force. Sometimes, we have to realize that when things aren’t working the way we want them to, we have to let them be. Forcing stuff to fix them won’t work. While applying pushing can sometimes be a solution, the positive effect is just for a short time – in the long run, it isn’t your best bet.
An important lesson we all have to learn early is that forcing things is never the solution but the cause of friction and irreparable destruction. The primary rule you need to understand to deal with these conflicts is that moving things means whatever you are chasing was not meant to be yours. So change your strategies, or better still, accept things and let them go.
If you think things can go as expected and feel bad, then note that whatever happens is just in the frame of your understanding. But happens to your blind spot? What happens to the things you can’t see? What if there’s something better coming towards you? You have two options: the first option is to force things and make them worse or accept things, let them go, and attract whatever positivity awaits you in the future. Reiteratively, forcing things means you were over expecting, you’ve got the wrong approach, or the person or thing in question was never meant to be yours, to begin with. Instead, change what you can and accept what you can’t control. Learn to let things go or find a better way to achieve your goals more efficiently. Always put yourself in this realm: “I no longer force things. What flows, flows. What crashes, crashes. I only have space and energy for things that are meant for me.”
