According to studies, strict mothers raise children who are more successful
According to a study conducted by the University of Essex in England, daughters of unbearable mothers (those who are aware of every step we take, who refuse to let go of us, and who appear to never be happy) are more likely to become successful women than daughters of permissive and pampering mothers.
From 2004 to 2010, the researchers studied the lives of 15,500 teenage girls between the ages of 13 and 14. Those who were the daughters of tough mothers who imposed stringent standards and expected more of them were more likely to attend prestigious institutions and earn higher wages.
Daughters of ‘unbearable mothers,’ on the other hand, were less likely to become pregnant as teenagers. So, if your mother does not offer you entire freedom to do anything you want (especially throughout puberty), praise her for her concern, because you are more likely to succeed in life as a result. You’ll understand why she does it afterwards.
Why should parents set limits on children?
Yes, giving children freedom is beneficial, but only up to a point. When one is learning, it is vital to set limits.
It’s as if you suddenly decided you wanted to train to be a pastry chef and no one informed you how to do it, or why you shouldn’t go crazy with the numbers… or why you shouldn’t do things you want to do but will have disastrous effects. As a result, boundaries are required. What are the reasons for this?
Children have rights, but they also have responsibilities, which they can comprehend by following the rules. In addition, to demonstrate the value of respect for parents.
It encourages them to be more disciplined: being free will undoubtedly result in chaos. A child requires guidance to become organized, as well as someone to set a discipline and a course for him.
It enables them to change negative behaviours: No one is born knowing what is right and what is wrong. It is the parents’ job to tell their children what is and is not permissible. The limits demarcate a narrow line that should not be crossed.
And, while it may be difficult for them to comprehend at first, they will come to realize that the boundaries are in place not to annoy them or make the journey more difficult, but to ensure that they do not escape and reach the objective without difficulty.
Other experts believe that an extremely severe education might harm children who do not achieve the goals that their parents set for them and, fearing the repercussions, feel insecure and lie.
For children whose parents are very rigid, the pressure to be the best or perfect can have a severe impact on their lives.
And, if that time comes, punishing a child for lying just serves to exacerbate the problem, while the key to resolving it is to figure out why he lied and lacked the guts to tell the truth in the first place. Instilling fear and insecurity in youngsters is not a good strategy to help them succeed and live a fulfilled life.
Parents must create the necessary confidence in their children in order for them to reach their greatest potential.
Perhaps our children’s lack of trust in us when they encounter a difficulty is a failing on our part as parents. When it comes to resolving a disagreement, we should always be your first choice. Aren’t you convinced?
Many parents believe in tactics focused on punishment or rewards for failures or accomplishments, and while this may help their children succeed academically, permanent demands without any tolerance and understanding do not work.
